My friend needs help and I dont know what to do?

Wow it seems that you two were meant to be together at this time of your life and this is a really special thing. First it is normal for Dads to fight with their first born sons as their sons are striving for independence. Let them work it out between them and help by listening and being there for your friend. With your councellor, I think it is time you fired her and found someone else. It is not working for you. Oh and I am so sorry about your Mom. Always remember that she is watch over you though.